Inner Wealth Initiative comes to NH 

Nurtured Heart Approach

Target Audience: For educators, school administrators, child care providers, parents. grandparents, family members, caregivers

Dates: Friday, May 27, 2011, 8:30am to 3pm, $109 fee includes coffee and lunch, Books will be available for sale at a discount, Presenter: Deborah Rosato

The Nurtured Heart Approach is a strategy developed for teachers and parents to quickly and successfully manage behaviors of challenging children. This approach allows the average child to meet with success on a daily basis.

Learn how to positively impact the children’s successful behavioral choices while at the same time not fueling the negative choices children sometimes makes.

One training is now being offered in Gilford. This is a refresher training and can be attended by those who have read the book. Register now.

Schools that use The Nurtured Heart Approach find:

1. Special Education counts go down.
2. Teachers retention rate increases.
3. Teachers have more time to teach.
4. Bullying becomes nonexistent.
5. School Suspension is reduced by 60%.
6. Need for medication for impulse control is dramatically reduced.

Parents who use The Nurtured Heart Approach find:

1. They enjoy being parents again.
2. They feel successful as parents.
3. They find there is less anger and more happiness in their home
4. They love seeing their children succeed
5. They want all parents to know about this approach.

Join Advanced Community Education in collaboration with Dorothy Derapelian, LCMHC, for the opportunity to advance and improve your strategies and approach of your relationship with your child and children.

Contact Advanced Community Education to register for this training.

To learn more, Howard Glasser and improved school outcomes.

I have a few words to say about this show. I felt so bad for the families in the show. There are ways to help parents to create warm and loving relationships with their children and there is no one size fits all. The demonstration of the comparison of one family sticking to the Kazdin Method while the other family could not showed only that Dr. Phil is unable to suggest strategies while taking into consideration individual and family circumstances. A parent needs to be in a good sense of mind to parent effectively and in an even more stable sense of mind when parenting children with difficult behaviors.

They need to focus their energy in the places where it will build self-worth and intentionally use appropriate words to foster self-confidence all while sustaining respect for the adults and the child. Clearly, the mom of the 8 year old with challenging behaviors was not in a good sense of mind. Her son has clearly hurt her physically, and severely emotionally wore her down. Giving energy during the show to make her feel lower than the low that she was in cultivated resistance and a sense of failure.

Using the Nurtured Heart Approach would give energy to the values and beliefs that were in the parents and how they were there to find information to help their family. The mother’s sense of confidence was depleted. The mother and the father sat depressed and in despair. Using the Nurtured Heart Approach, one would tell the mom what she is doing right, not what she is doing wrong. The service of Dr. Kazdin was offered yet not wasn’t accessible as the mother worked during the hours that were available for the skype conference calls from Dr. Kazdin’s office.

Understanding and working with the family circumstances is of utmost importance.  The mother of the child with challenging behaviors was in tears. She was still being berated and it was no longer about the child but about the mother of the child and how she was a bad parent and a bad person for not following through with the suggestions. He called her the “ya but” to make a point that she was making excuses of why she couldn’t follow through. Her husband was silent.

To implement the Nurtured Heart Approach to the situation would be to energize the parents for the good that they are doing for their child, give good words to promote self-worth in the parents which has obviously been taken away during the past violent episodes, and to then give the parents a break to reset and start new and leave all past violent episodes of the child’s challenging behaviors behind them.

Pouncing on the mother and father through the mother is not the appropriate way to handle the much needed advice.

This is a difficult and dynamic situation. The parents were on the show to get help! The parents participated in the show. Twice! The parents were open to look for strategies. The parents want to help their child who has difficult behaviors. The parents are together, side by side, willingly accepting help. If the Kazdin Method is not the answer for this family, then try the Nurtured Heart Approach.   This is Deb’s thought of the day, April 21, 2011.

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